THE AFRICAN HOME Dating! Marriage! & Family! (part 2)

Continued from Part 1:

TIME IS A NON-NEGOTIABLE VALUE:

Don’t know the amount of relationship books you’ve read in time past, but know this for certain… The place of TIME cannot be substituted for anything in a relationship. The essence of relationship is to understand an individual properly. From the outside, you may have a hunch about someone’s personality or character, but until you get closer to such person, you may never know for certain who that person is or can be? Never be in a hurry to conclude about a person because as humans we can be very deceptive (especially guyz*I’m an exception sha, ask Yvonne Nelson*).

The Europeans we are trying to copy hardly have a functioning relationship because they are too quick to love. Remember that the quicker you fall in love, the quicker it is to also fall out of love.

NOT EVERY RELATIONSHIP MUST LEAD TO MARRIAGE:

Yes! I’m still sain and I aint a flirt like R.kelly… This is an erroneous notion that most sharp badt guyz have used and are still using in taking advantage of ladies. A relationship is like attending secondary school, at the end of the day is NOT everybody that must enter the UNIVERSITY; some can go to colleges of education, polytechnics or other training institutions.

Dating as it is is a process of getting to understand somebody better… It’s a time to know if you are compatible with the individual you claim to love/like as the case may be. If that person turns out to be who you feel is perfect for you, Congrats n Thank your Stars. If the reverse is the case, be glad and grateful that you discovered the true persona of that person on time; definitely, there would be unique things about yourself that you must have discovered in the time you were together. The fact that you don’t fit with the person doesn’t mean the person is badt, it simply means that that person is not the RIGHT one for you. (Or would you rather get married to somebody that would treat you like trash, just because you’ve dated that person for years?)

Someone might quickly ask… So where is the place of LOVE when dating? Love has and will continually be complex term for those that spend most times watching Nigeria movies (no offence to NollyWood o!) ;  but it’s simple. The fact that you choose to get close to someone is a sign that you can love that person. Love comes in different form. Some people love immediately; however for others, it takes a period of time, anyway, no matter the kind of person you are when it comes to love, TIME is essence if any relationship must last.

Dating is an essential process that must not be traded with anything else, yet we must be matured to keep an open mind to it. An open mind simply means you are hoping for the best, but preparing for the worst.

to be continued...